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I read this through several times. I don’t think I’m even close to done yet. Each time another aha! From my Mothers knee through to similar relationships in a lifetime.
Finally, finally got it in my head its not my fault. Neither is the self put downs and the consequences of shame and embarrassment. As I deal with the procrastination, from teeth to taxes, I focus on, this is a consequence and I’m dealing with it.
Life is not always fair, As Albert Ellis famously said, shitty things happen to nice people and nice things happen to shitty people so accept, accept, accept. This is done through dealing with the situation as best I can, getting all the help I can too, then ignoring it and focus on something more satisfying.
Once again, Tara, many many thanks for this information.